We’re in the month of love. In fact, we’re just a few days away from celebrating Valentine’s Day…
Apparently, my global provider for movie streaming categorizes 50 Shades of Grey with Romance and Valentine’s selections.
Can I get sick now?
As a former student of advertising, and media, it has been quite clear to me that media reflects culture and the present culture will reflect in our media. It’s a sad day when our culture is attracted to the themes and behaviors of 50 Shades of Grey. God help our culture, children, and particularly our daughters.I’d like to set straight a few things. First of all, a “Christian” foundation does NOT exist in the book series, or movie. As I understand, some have confused and categorized the book series by Etta James as a Christian romance novel. No, no, no!
Christianity embraces Repentance – turning away from Sin.
The character of Christian Gray does nothing of the sorts. In the books, Christian is hailed for his supposed admirable qualities such as confidence, Republican virtues, success and wealth, and his desire for Ana to embrace “Being Domestic Stay-at-home Mother” which is code for BDSM. If you conduct a simple internet search, you will find plenty of information that defines this practice of erotic, painful, domineering / submissive type of sexual explorations, often including role-play and the use of manipulatives and toys. Interestingly, the BDSM community define themselves as those that engage in mutually consented practices. Non-consensual behaviors are categorized as sexual sadism or sexual masochism. In short, the movie portrays non-consensual practice which is supposedly not acceptable in the BDSM community (most state they support the practice of consent only). Christian Gray avoids respecting key words that are designed to represent non-consent. This should be a really BIG issue and discussed further. In short, the movie fantasizes rape.
The movie released Valentine’s weekend symbolic of love and romance. Let’s set another thing straight, this is NOT a romance story. It is a story of lust, manipulation, and rape disguised as domineering romance.
In all of the controversy, it is clear why the sales may soar for this film. However, one doesn’t need to pay to sit through the atrocities to discover the truth about this movie. There is plenty of information on the web regarding this book series and newly released film. Do your research, and quite frankly – DON’T see it! I DID NOT SEE IT. I refuse to do so and want to make it clear that this “review” is based on research NOT personal exposure to something I clearly don’t support. If you call yourself a CHRISTIAN, I would particularly be cautioned. People are excited over the kinky sex scenes and full of lust for the bodies of the characters portrayed. In essence, it’s an arousal film – pornographic in nature. I know that some will argue that it’s not porn, but from a Christian perspective – it definitely is! There are no “levels” of sexually inappropriate scenes when it comes those who call themselves “Christian.” If several critics do not find it exciting or arousing, it doesn’t mean that it is not highly inappropriate. For a practicing Christian, it should be black and white – not grey.
Consider the simple children’s song:
“Oh, be careful little eyes, what you see, (repeat)
For the Father up above, is looking down in love,
Oh be careful little eyes what you see.”
The song continues to address the following: “Be careful little mouth what you say… Be careful little hands what you do… Be careful little mind what you think”
In the book of Ephesians, we are told to be very careful.
(NIV) Ephesians 5:4 “Nor should there be obscenity, foolish talk or coarse joking, which are out of place, but rather thanksgiving.”
(NIV) Ephesians 5:6-7 “Let no one deceive you with empty words, for because of such things God’s wrath comes on those who are disobedient. Therefore, do not be partners with them.”
(NIV) Ephesians 5:11-12 “Have nothing to do with the fruitless deeds of darkness, but rather expose them. It is shameful even to mention what the disobedient do in secret.”
(King James Version) Ephesians 5:15-16 “See then that ye walk circumspectly, not as fools, but as wise, Redeeming the time, because the days are evil.”
If you take a quick glance at what the majority of secular critics are saying, they simply resort to stating that the movie is “boring.” Apparently, many agree with the theme and want MORE of it? I guess the eroticism is too mild?
As a matter of principle and strong conviction; as a CHRISTIAN, I must advocate against this movie. Manipulation, abuse, and sexually preying are NOT good things. Thanks to the media, our society has affirmed the behaviors of those that think such is acceptable. Furthermore, many that may not have been introduced to BDSM may explore, confuse lust for romance, and question if rape was truly consent or non-consent, or non-consent role-play which can fall under the category of consent. It’s confusing. It’s awfully disgusting. It’s purposefully deceptive, and most likely will indeed deceive many.
Overall, this movie is a sad, sad story gone bad…very, very bad.
- As a Christian alternative to true romance that is full of excitement, plot, and character development, I suggest Redeeming Love by Francine Rivers.
- You may also want to check out the blog by Captain Fussy Buckets “Fifty Shades of Grey Alternatives for Healthy Marriages”
Psalm 119:37 “Turn my eyes from worthless things, and give me life through your word.” (New Living Translation)
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*Brook Joy writes articles on Faith, Life, Culture, and her personal journey with Health (IBD). Brook is a chocolate-loving wife & homeschooling mama (and a Christian for 20+ years)… planting and growing God’s seeds of hope at missionzera.com